Eating disorders are complex. They are not just about food, weight, or appearance—they are deeply rooted in emotional pain and, often, a need for control or safety. Whether you or someone you love is struggling, know this: eating disorders are rarely simply about the food.
As a therapist who specializes in eating disorder treatment, I’ve had the privilege of walking beside clients through some of their most vulnerable moments. This work has shown me over and over again that recovery is not only real, but transformative. If you’re reading this and wondering whether healing is truly possible, I want you to know: it is.
Understanding Eating Disorders: More Than Meets the Eye
Eating disorders come in many forms and affect people across all ages, genders, body types, ethnicities, and backgrounds. They are not always visible from the outside. People of all body shapes and sizes can experience eating disorders.
Some of the most common eating disorders include:
Anorexia Nervosa: Characterized by restriction of food intake, intense fear of gaining weight, and a distorted body image.
Bulimia Nervosa: Involves cycles of binge eating followed by the compensatory behaviour of purging.
Binge Eating Disorder (BED): Involves recurring episodes of consuming large quantities of food, often rapidly and to the point of discomfort, without compensatory behaviors.
Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID): A pattern of eating disturbances often tied to sensory issues or fear of aversive consequences, not driven by body image concerns.
Orthorexia (not yet officially recognized in the DSM): An unhealthy obsession with "clean" or "healthy" eating that can severely disrupt a person’s life.
While each disorder has unique traits, they all share a common thread: emotional distress expressed through food and the body.
Myths That Get in the Way of Healing
Eating disorders are surrounded by harmful myths that can delay treatment and deepen shame. Let’s dispel a few:
“You don’t look like you have an eating disorder.” Eating disorders do not have a “look.” People of all sizes can experience eating disorders.
“It’s just a phase.” Eating disorders are serious mental health conditions that require professional support and are not to be brushed off. They are the most fatal psychiatric illness.
“If they would just eat, they’d be fine.” Recovery is not just about eating differently, it’s about healing psychologically as well.
“They’re just doing it for attention.” There is immense shame that comes with an eating disorder and it is a mental illness that no one would willfully choose.
Letting go of these myths opens the door for empathy, intervention, and hope.
What Recovery Really Looks Like
Recovery from an eating disorder is not a straight line. It’s more like a winding path—filled with highs and lows, setbacks and breakthroughs. That’s not a sign of failure. It’s how real, meaningful change works.
Here’s what recovery may involve:
1. Reconnecting with the Body
Many people with eating disorders feel disconnected from their bodies—either ignoring hunger cues or feeling at war with their physical selves. In recovery, we begin to rebuild trust with the body: listening, responding, and caring for it rather than controlling or punishing it.
2. Addressing the Root Causes
Eating disorders often serve a function: numbing emotional pain, providing a sense of control, or coping with trauma, anxiety, or low self-worth. Therapy creates space to explore and heal these underlying issues.
3. Rewriting the Inner Dialogue
The inner critic in eating disorders can be relentless. Part of recovery is learning to challenge that voice and cultivate a new one- one rooted in compassion, curiosity, and self-acceptance.
4. Creating a Life Beyond the Disorder
As healing progresses, clients begin to rediscover who they are beyond the eating disorder - reconnecting with passions, relationships, values, and dreams that may have been buried or put on hold.
What Progress Looks Like (Even When It’s Hard to See)
Recovery looks different for everyone and progress can take many forms. Sometimes, it might look like one of these things:
Eating in a social setting with friends despite feeling anxious
Choosing rest instead of compulsive exercise
Recognizing a trigger before acting on it
Crying instead of restricting
Feeling an emotion fully, without numbing
These moments are profound victories. They may seem small, but they are the building blocks of sustainable healing.
For Those Who Love Someone Struggling
If someone you care about is living with an eating disorder, you may feel confused, helpless, or scared. You don’t need to have all the answers but your support makes a difference.
Here’s what can help:
Listen without judgment.
Avoid comments about weight, food, or appearance. Take a neutral stance to all bodies and food.
Educate yourself about eating disorders. Meet with an eating disorder therapist yourself to gain a deep understanding of this psychiatric illness.
Encourage professional help
Practice patience. Recovery takes time and there will be ups and downs
Taking the First Step
If you’re considering therapy- or just wondering if your relationship with food and body is something to look at- that curiosity is enough. The first step doesn’t have to be big. It might be a phone call. A journal entry. A conversation.
And if you’re further along in your healing, know that setbacks don’t erase progress. Every part of your story matters. Every part deserves care.
Final Thoughts: You Are worthy of recovery
Eating disorders often leave people feeling like the eating disorder is their safe place for finding their worth, validation and comfort.
Recovery is about coming home to yourself. It’s about learning that you are enough as you are- not because of your weight, your achievements, or your willpower- but simply because you exist. You are worthy.
If you or a loved one is navigating an eating disorder, I invite you to reach out. You don’t have to do it alone. Healing is possible, and you are deserving of it.
Let’s take that first step together.
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